Forgive me if I'm just being nitpicky with syntax, but...

[uberreiniger]

Each time I've talked about the impending loss of our work site since yesterday I've mentioned how I think it's interesting that it syncs up almost perfectly with my wedding. Twice now my thoughts about how it's time for change have been met with "Of Course! You're starting a family!"

Maybe it shouldn't annoy me when people say that, but it does. I am getting married. I am not "starting a family." Starting a family, to me anyway, means having children. Most certainly it carries that implication. If it doesn't, then why do we say things like "they got married AND started a family?" We may indeed have children, but why do people just assume that if you're getting married then you'll immediately be starting work on Baby #1 come the honeymoon night? It just bothers me.

On a sadder and less me-centric note, R.I.P. Syd Barret. One of rock's greatest and most tragic figures has left us. Maybe he will find peace now.

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[gothicbeauty21.livejournal.com]

The number one thing that pissed me off when I was engaged, was people asking me, "OOOOOO now that you're getting married when are you going to GIVE YOUR PARENTS GRANDCHILDREN?"

To which I always replied, "I already have children."

Them: *blink blink*

Me: "My cats will be the only children I ever have."


It IS fucking annoying when people start making assumptions and planning your life for you. I don't want kids, I don't plan on having kids. The possibility exists that I MIGHT change my mind a decade from now, but I think the possibilty is very slim.

The next time someone makes the "starting a family" reference just fucking correct them. Say "We're not pregnant, we won't be getting pregnant immediately, so no, there will be no 'starting of a family'. We're just getting married."


Then again I am just a bitch.

[batchix.livejournal.com]

I have giant 2 foot somewhat scary dolls. I enjoy telling my mother they are her grandchildren. XD

[uberreiniger.livejournal.com]

I just hope the dolls don't start telling her that!

[uberreiniger.livejournal.com]

No, I think you're right.

[stitchedsutures.livejournal.com]

That icon is cute! I could say the same about my two fluffballs.

I swear, when my parents used to ask me if I was getting married/considering children I would just reply "Nah. I'm just going to be the craaaazy cat lady."

[gothicbeauty21.livejournal.com]

Oh yeah, I'm adament about being the crazy cat lady, regardless if I ever get married or not. I have 3 cats now, and will keep the same ones until I lose one of theme due to their passing on...I think 3 is a nice round number. ;)

Granted, if I ever get a HUGE house, I might up the number a little bit...but for apartment living 3 is plenty.

[stitchedsutures.livejournal.com]

I have had thoughts about cat number three lately. I think it all stemmed from this awesome dream I had where I was playing with this tiny, fluffy, adorable kitten that smiled at me. Hah.

My boyfriend tells me to just go spend more time with my crazy tabby to realize why I don't need another kitten just yet. It's just a dream.... kittens will not really smile at you like that, Amanda.

[gothicbeauty21.livejournal.com]

Oh yes, they will.

[uberreiniger.livejournal.com]

Just think about treating your cat's urinary tract infection whenever you feel the urge to do something crazy like that.

[batchix.livejournal.com]

You WILL have children. You're adopting one from Leslie, right? Little furry bundles of joy. Who scratch the sofa, lick their asses in front of the TV while you're watching your favorite show, and put their icy paws on your bare skin at 4am.

[uberreiniger.livejournal.com]

I know! I can't wait!

[ysathora.livejournal.com]

Woohoo!

[shadowfell.livejournal.com]

I know the feeling there. I'll be married five years in August, still no kids or much thought about kids (although we are considering moving - with school districts being a serious thought now). We no longer frequent my family's favorite Chinese place because everytime we go there they ask "Children yet?" Now they're even asking my family members about it.

I understand that it was once very unusual for couples who were married to not have children, but that isn't the case nowadays. Besides, I don't want to have children until I know I'm ready, and that means spiritually AND financially (and for me, also medically). I want to be able to provide for my children so they'll grow up well.

Apparently, all of those things are putting too much thought into the issue, although I am blessed to have parents and in-laws who aren't desperately pressuring us for children. As it is, it's still YOUR decision to make and not the rest of the world's. :)

[shadowfell.livejournal.com]

On the total opposite side of things, marriage does makes things different. I lived with Andrew for three years before we got married, and after the fact, well, it's different. Can't really explain it.

So I AM saying that's it nice to have some time with just each other too. :)

[uberreiniger.livejournal.com]

I'm looking forward to the changes that will come with marriage. Kids, I can still live without for a while, though :) We both can.

[stitchedsutures.livejournal.com]

All the nosey questions and assumptions piss me the hell off too. I figure I'm too touchy on the subject, but people need to realize that it's annoying to beat a dead horse. And yes, repeatedly pushing for info about kids and inside info on your life planning is right up there. It's a personal dead horse to be beating.

I've had my parents mention how much they would love grandkids someday... and how now is the time to start "thinking ahead."
I had to ask them which they would rather hound me about: getting married or having babies... or if they wanted grandkids so badly that they no longer cared about the marriage part that they've been pestering me about since age 18.

They haven't pestered me about grandchildren since. They were married for 12 years before they had me though, so I doubt they will be pressuring me until oh, say, I hit 30. Unless of course I'm still not married by next year. Then it's off to that routine again. I have just under four mor years left. I hope I don't seriously start hating being their child in a couple years :/
For this reason, I'm starting to feel tense about their visit this weekend. Dammit all. Let me be peaceful and happy!

[uberreiniger.livejournal.com]

Tell them you'll start having kids as soon as you are unemployed and need to have them to get on welfare. That'll shut 'em up :)

[fadedsecret.livejournal.com]

I really REALLY hate it when people assume you're going to have kids. Especially if you get married (not that I am married right now). But it's like a constant, " SOOOOOOOOOO WHEN ARE YOU HAVING BABIES!"

And I don't even have a BOYFRIEND.

And what if I get a girlfriend? No babies there unless I adopt.

GOD we are not BABY MACHINES PEOPLE. Our sole purpose in life is NOT to pop out children!

[ghaidin.livejournal.com]

oh, but it is! I remember that little piece of news about considering all women in fertile age... pre-pregnant or something of the sort. *sigh*

[fadedsecret.livejournal.com]

LOL If God meant for us to be baby machines he would have planted the sperm HIMSELF.

Bwuahahaha.

[uberreiniger.livejournal.com]

Oh but He did! We manly men are just keeping it warm for Him! :)

[gothicbeauty21.livejournal.com]

People that say that shit, make me want to shoot them.

Pre-pregnant my ass. Stupid people like that are the ones doing all the reproducing, and instilling those same stupid thoughts into their children.

But don't worry...Darwin will eventually catch up to them all.

[uberreiniger.livejournal.com]

But don't worry...Darwin will eventually catch up to them all.

Yeah. Namely in the fact that species who reproduce too much eventually starve to death. The sad thing is they're going to drag the rest of us down into their Darwinian hell hole with them.

[gothicbeauty21.livejournal.com]

Was thinking more in the fact that their own stupidity will catch up to them and they'll be removed from the gene pool, either by dying or by sterilizing themselves...but, touche.

[ghaidin.livejournal.com]

Sterilization? They wouldn't, they are good people... why would they rob all those women of their only purpose in life?

[gothicbeauty21.livejournal.com]

More along the lines of blowing their balls off with dynomite or something...but yeah, they'd probably just have their buddies impregnate their wives "so the family name goes on".

*shudder*

[ghaidin.livejournal.com]

I'm just a bit concern that they're the ones who are seating children on their tables right and left, and then more rows to the right, and throw in a few more descendants on the left.

Fact is they're reproducing faster, and their minions suffer brainwashing since birth. I get this nightmarish vision of a-cerebral, identically-minded mass of lifeforms expanding and covering it all. And we all know what happens to the social host of such creatures when the guests consume all the resources. Down and done.

All the politically incorrect blabbering said, I've met a few VERY big families who were perfectly normal (or as normal as you can be when there are 10 children running around the house). It's just the ones who want to impose their way on my reproductive life that give me the wacks.

[elvinborn.livejournal.com]

this is the same mindset that has people pointing out to me that if I don't hit on men I won't get married. WTF? you must make babies now!!! why?? and then there's the whole "you must give your parents grandbabies!!". I really don't get that either. This is not the point. Is it? I sure hope not.

[uberreiniger.livejournal.com]

If our parents want grandbabies so bad, then why the hell did they have us? Cut out the middle man, that's what I say!

[elvinborn.livejournal.com]

ummmmmm.....
I gave my parents a grandpuppy. and two grandkitties. and mostly a grandhorse. They are not allowed to complain. :D

actually mine are quite good about not making me feel like a complete failure at life for the not having all the babies. rock.

[ksracxe.livejournal.com]

You don't want to know what I think about the whole "Marraige = kids" thing. It's aggravating, yes. What I want to know is what is with all the faith no more lately? Are we both listening to Angel Dust in our cars singing along with the lively and upbeat Mike - "here's how to order!" ?

Cause that would be weird. Not surprising, just weird. :)

[uberreiniger.livejournal.com]

Yes, that's exactly what is happening, in fact. I don't know, I haven't listened to Faith No More in a really long time but the other day I just woke up with a mad craving to hear them the same way I sometimes get a mad craving for Sprite soda even though I normally can't stand the stuff. Not that I dislike FNM the way I dislike Sprite; not at all. Just haven't thought of them for a long time until BOOM they're all that goes through my head.

[rathenar.livejournal.com]

Phoo on those people. It's nobody's business to tell you when to have children. I certainly never plan to, and anyone who says I should will get short shrift.

(Besides, I already have three babies. One of them is a Stratocaster, one is a Silvertone and one is a BC Rich... hehehe. ^_^)

[uberreiniger.livejournal.com]

Well, to their credit nobody was telling me when to have children per se, they were just assuming I was about to. However, I actually find that a little worse because it just feels more condescending to me.

All my babies are B.C. Riches. They get their good looks from me :D

[duendegrrl.livejournal.com]

Huh. Nobody has ever said anything to Adam or I about having kids. Ever. WTF? Are we just surrounded by really cool, non-assuming, unannoying people? Or are people so alarmed by the thought we may reproduce that they don't even want to suggest it? Heh heh.

Seriously, humans are generally too nice. If somebody says something that's really none of their business, politely clue them in. If they say it again, smack 'em down.