Creatures that Kissed in Cold Mirrors

[uberreiniger]

The things we say in writing that can't be said in real life. It's why I became a writer in the first place. Now those skills are coming in handy.

I dated a girl named Carie for a while. I met her my first year of college and we stayed in touch after I switched colleges my second year. Time passed and eventually we became more than friends. It was an emotional comfort thing for me at the time since I was at this point still very depressed about Lesley. Carie understood that and all was well. But her feelings deepened while mine did not and it was a ruinous end. We never fully quit talking to each other, but for the past two years many weeks and sometimes months will pass between our talks instead of talking every day. And things have just gotten more and more tense each time we do.

Long story short, she has a new computer and we're talking over e-mail now. Really talking, I should say, since for the first time we're addressing the underlying issues instead of whatever we happen to argue about on the phone while the unpsoken subtext plays itself out. I don't know if this will make things any better or if it will finally lead us to the conclusion that our friendship can no longer survive. Either way, I feel better for getting things off my chest. I hope she does too.

Does anybody else have the kind of strained relationship with exes that I do? Is this normal? I guess I should probably be grateful to be having relationships with them at all since most people lose track of their exes completely. Just something I'm curious about.

Comments

[uberreiniger.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I've noticed most people only talk about how they were treated in past relationships with their current companion when the current relationship is already in trouble - and by then, it's usually too late for the information to be helpful because the damage resultant from the past situation(s) has already been done. I personally don't understand why it's such a taboo to talk about past relationships with current ones. If they care about your life so much, shouldn't it be something they want to hear? But no, we have to go through our petty little motions of feeling threatened and feeling like we're being compared - as if they'd be with you if the previous person was so much better than you like you fear. It's hopeless and stupid and then we wonder why marriages don't last.