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AWKWARD!
So a few days ago I started a Facebook. Didn't really want to, but hey, I want people to buy my novel and anything to reach a broader audience, right? Well who just friended me but my high school youth pastor? And here's my profile advertising a nice big smut novel, naked woman posing all suggestively and everything.
He hasn't said anything to me yet - and he might not because he tends to be circumspect - but I know him and know that he must be thinking... something. I was, after all, a "good" Christian kid, even if I did wear Metallica and Suicidal Tendencies t-shirts to youth group and ask the difficult questions that make clergy flinch. He never flinched though, and that's one of many things that made him earn my admiration and respect. But unless he's changed just as much as I have in the last fourteen years, then he's not going to understand what I write and why I write it. And I doubt he's changed. With me you could see it coming; not so with him.
So... this may be interesting. Erotica writers are often asked "how does X feel about what you do? How did you go about telling them what you do? Do they even know what you do?" For all of us the answer is different. I have been blessed with very supportive family and friends. But like so many others there are people in my life whom I know won't understand and I don't expect them to. I made the decision when I started this that I wouldn't hide what I write. So while I'm not shouting it to those folks that I'm writing very explicit hardcore sex scenes and selling them to people, I'm not hiding it either. If you you've caught me at it, good for you. Pull up a seat and let's have a talk.
But my old pastor... that's one I had not expected. Granted he's got more on his plate to deal with right now then what someone he hasn't seen in over a decade is doing, (according to his profile he's a missionary in Bulgaria right now,) but I know him. I know he will remember what he saw.
Interesting. Very interesting.
He hasn't said anything to me yet - and he might not because he tends to be circumspect - but I know him and know that he must be thinking... something. I was, after all, a "good" Christian kid, even if I did wear Metallica and Suicidal Tendencies t-shirts to youth group and ask the difficult questions that make clergy flinch. He never flinched though, and that's one of many things that made him earn my admiration and respect. But unless he's changed just as much as I have in the last fourteen years, then he's not going to understand what I write and why I write it. And I doubt he's changed. With me you could see it coming; not so with him.
So... this may be interesting. Erotica writers are often asked "how does X feel about what you do? How did you go about telling them what you do? Do they even know what you do?" For all of us the answer is different. I have been blessed with very supportive family and friends. But like so many others there are people in my life whom I know won't understand and I don't expect them to. I made the decision when I started this that I wouldn't hide what I write. So while I'm not shouting it to those folks that I'm writing very explicit hardcore sex scenes and selling them to people, I'm not hiding it either. If you you've caught me at it, good for you. Pull up a seat and let's have a talk.
But my old pastor... that's one I had not expected. Granted he's got more on his plate to deal with right now then what someone he hasn't seen in over a decade is doing, (according to his profile he's a missionary in Bulgaria right now,) but I know him. I know he will remember what he saw.
Interesting. Very interesting.